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How to Be Your Kid’s Biggest Fan
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A Code of Conduct for Parents

Most parents are great at praising and encouraging their children from the first moments of their lives.  We celebrate every little thing that our children do.  They wave bye-bye and we gush.  They say their first word and we call all our family and friends to share the news.  They take their first steps, and we are over the moon with pride.  But something happens when our child enters the world of competitive activities like Little League or ballet.  Our once easily dispensed praises turn into "helpful" suggestions, corrections and even criticisms. Sometimes correction and critique are necessary, but it's more important to be your kid's fan.  Here's a code of conduct to help you cheer your child on to success.

I will remember my child first.  Consider what makes your child feel most supported, not just the game.  Loud shouting may embarrass your child.  Recall in your past all the embarrassing moments with your parents, and use that as a point of reference.  Another good starting point is asking your child how to best support him.

I will let my child play the game.  It's not okay for you to catch the football and run it in for a touchdown.  Your daughter really wants to learn football and how to play it.  It's better to offer your tips in a practice setting rather than correcting her midgame.  Also arguing with the coach or referee stops the progress of the game.  Let the coach handle the calls and your child play the sport.

I will encourage my child to do better.  Keep in perspective why your child is playing the sport.  The purpose is to learn the sport; that learning never stops.  There are always new techniques and sciences to consider behind proper performance.  As long as your child is bettering themselves and enjoying the sport avoid having a negative attitude about whether they win or lose.

I will cheer my child on.  Cheering your child on is something that happens during and after a game.  Children need as much support during practice as they do during the game.  Additionally, be an example to all the other parents as you commend your child for his efforts.  There's always something good to say about your child even if they lost a game.

I will remember to have fun.  As cheesy as this one sounds, it's true.  As parents, we need to remember to enjoy the games, traveling, and practices.  Your child wants to see you having as much fun in cheering them on as they are having running around the field.  They especially need to see your joy when the game's not quite won yet. 

Keeping these things in mind should allow for you and your child to continue enjoying the game!  Happy sporting! And listen as these parents share their experiences of being active parents in their kids' extracurricular activities.

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